Recently, I was asked if I would like to help with a group of teen girls in our church. Apparently, they have a younger group leader, but needed a second leader that was – as she put it – “someone more seasoned.”
That made me chuckle. You season a pot roast, not a woman.
I remember thinking, my mother used to refer to menopausal women going through the ‘change of life’ as women in their season. That conjured up images of hot flashes, Geritol commercials and gray hair….
What does it mean exactly, to be seasoned? My immediate thought was old. I don’t feel that old, but teenage girls probably think I’m old. When I was a teenager, I thought 30 was old. So in their eyes, I’m probably ancient!
One definition I found on the internet about a seasoned person:
“They have lots of experience, and they can handle just about anything that comes their way. To become seasoned takes a long time, because it means you are an old pro — someone who has dedicated years to a specific skill or activity.”
Experience, expertise, old pro, they’ve dedicated years to something…..
What have I dedicated years to? I’ve dedicated years to living as a woman, and all that entails, in this crazy world. Growing up, marriage, motherhood, career and just trying to figure out life in general. Fifty years to be exact. I guess that qualifies me as seasoned. Hmmmm…. still not sure how I’m feeling.
The way I see it, a seasoned person is just a person who has “been there, done that.” I’ve already walked on the road you are traveling on, therefore, perhaps I may have some words of wisdom to offer. Guidance from someone who has already experienced more of life. Someone who has made mistakes and can empathize, or guide your path away from those mistakes, because of my experience. Hindsight is 20/20, right?
In my 50 years, I have experienced a variety of things. The good, the bad and the ugly. I like to think I’ve had a really good life. However, I have experienced plenty of bad things too – life isn’t always easy. Here’s the thing, when you take all of your life experiences and blend them together, it’s the way you’ve handled them and what you’ve learned from them, that make you into the person you are. Is who you are something you can offer to others? It can be a blessing to them if you can encourage them through the wisdom you have gained. I have learned a lot from older and wiser women in my life and I am grateful for them.
Each experience is kind of like a different spice; some are savory, some may be bitter and some are sweet. But when you mix those flavors together – voila! – the perfect combination of seasoning! One spice alone makes a bland dish, but many flavors together create a masterpiece!
Well, there you go. I guess you could call me a ‘seasoned’ woman. Just don’t put a fork in me yet, as I am far from done. I may need another pinch of salt from time to time….
“O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.”
“You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.”